Until Your Current Situation Becomes Unbearable, You Will Not Change

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Why am I so driven now to change my life and live the life that I have always wanted to live? This change, this driven attitude, this motivation in me, didn’t happen overnight. But it seems sometimes that it did. I realize now that the change that I had wanted, the motivation that I had always craved was always underneath the surface. Waiting to appear. Waiting to bubble up to the surface.

But it didn’t. Why?

Because there wasn’t enough impetus for it to come to surface. There wasn’t enough gumption.

Once, my life became unbearable to me, then it was time. The volcano erupted and the lava in me, the motivational lava in me is still flowing strong.

My life was pretty bearable for a long time, and that was, of course, a problem. As long as my life was bearable enough, it didn’t matter. I was fine. I could take it. It was good enough. No need to rock the boat. No need to change anything.

You are lucky, people would say to me. You have a good job, and a great salary, and a family who loves you.

Why am I so unhappy then? I would ask myself occasionally. But I would cover up the asking, the question with a facade of shopping, consumerism, and Television.  (more…)

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An Attitude Of Gratitude Goes A Longer Way Than Anything Else

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Let’s chat a bit about gratitude using this story. There is a lot of construction going on in the place that I am living at right now. It’s low season and it’s a good time to get a lot of repairs and shit done. Which is great for the guests that might be coming in the future. But for people like me, who are living here right now, it’s annoying. I was speaking to an older gentleman about it recently, and he said something really interesting that I wanted to share with you.

He said that in his journal this morning, he asked himself what he had to be grateful for, and he wrote down, “I’m grateful for the construction noises, because it makes me appreciate the quiet even more.” He said that it’s all part of the plan. The universe wants to remind us over and over again that we have a lot to be grateful for, but as we are stupid or forgetful, we keep on forgetting, and thus, the universe has to constantly remind us of the same thing over and over again.

The same lessons coming at us in a million different ways. (more…)

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You Cannot Fool Your Spirit Or Soul Forever With Lies

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When I was a child, I thought that I had eons to do all of the things that I wanted to do with my life. I wanted to be a writer, and that was a dream that had stuck with me forever and ever. But, I was told that it was not the most lucrative and realistic dream to have. I decided it would be more lucrative to become a doctor. So I persevered at that. As hard as I could.

But that wasn’t hard enough or good enough. Because I didn’t get in. Three times I applied, and three times, I failed. It was fine. I still had other options. I could try something else. Maybe get a business degree, and become a marketing guru. Or get into a technology company and try to work in social media. Whatever it might be. Whatever it could be, it wasn’t going to be writing, of course.

Writing wasn’t worth it. It wasn’t going to make me any money. No way, no how.

As much as I tried to avoid the truth, my soul or spirit or whatever you want to call it (I like to call it my essence) kept on prodding at me, kept on poking at me. ‘Hey, you,’ it said, over and over again, ‘you are getting distracted from your true purpose. You are supposed to be doing something else.’ (more…)

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It Can Be Easy To Lose Hope In This World But We Must Not

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I have been kind of noticing a trend in the world where a lot of us empaths, and HSPs, and others, are kind of losing hope in the world. There’s so much bullshit happening in the world, where sometimes all I want to do is throw up my hands in the air, and say, “I give up. You win. I give up. Take over the world, damn Nazis, and just go away. Leave me alone, and just do your thing. I can’t deal with you anymore.”

But, of course, the more I think about it, the more I say to myself, “No, you cannot give up. If you give up, they’ve won. Don’t you see that you cannot give them the opportunity to win? They must not be allowed to win. They cannot be allowed to win. If evil wins, then we are all in trouble, not just a few of us. But all of humanity is in trouble if evil wins.”

The more I think about evil winning in this world, the more I fear for this world in general. I tell myself that this cannot be. I should be more vigilant. I need to pay more attention. Speak up against the madness that is going on in the world.

Therefore, I decided to write this post. I try to keep all of my writings fairly politics-free, and this one is no exception. I am not going to speak about how I disagree with some of the political happenings in the world. I have no right to speak to it, because I am not an expert in world politics. (more…)

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How Do You Know If You Are Doing The Right Thing?

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I have been thinking about this question a lot recently because there has been a barrage of people doing wrong things on this planet. Like being racist, or sexist, or homophobic, and more. But then people argue with these exact same individuals about the fact that they are being cruel or wrong in what they are doing, these people don’t understand. They don’t get why they are wrong in how they treating these other human beings.

In their minds, it is completely and absolutely justified.

Now this has happened many times in history and will probably keep on happening many times again, especially if as humans we don’t learn from our past or our mistakes.

The reason concentration camps and their cruelty happened was because the people running the camps believed that they were in the right. They were doing something right to fix the world that according to them would be broken until a certain type of people were completely annihilated.

This kind of thing still exists, and is happening all over the world and has happened all over history. (more…)

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Everyone Wants To Be An Expert, But No One Wants To Do The Work

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I was doing my own yoga practice the other day, as usual, by myself. I love doing a yoga practice on my own, because I can have so much more control over the moves that I choose. Tailoring my yoga practice to my body’s specific needs rather than taking a generic fits-for-all class. Which I love.

As I did my yoga poses at my own turtle-like pace, I heard someone slide open the yoga hall’s door, and ask me if I could teach her a few yoga poses as she had never done yoga. It was one of the local Thai girls who worked with me, very sweet, petite, and quiet. I said, yes, of course, and started doing the poses a bit slower than normal, to show her how to slide into each one.

She is a smart girl, so she was able to copy my moves almost exactly without a lot of guidance or coaching. I had a thought slip into my mind as I did my moves, thinking, there isn’t much difference if you look from the outside in, between me and her.

I have been doing yoga for about 8 years now, so compared to her, I’m kind of an expert. But if someone walked past the yoga hall and saw us both practicing, they would see two individuals doing exactly the same yoga moves, with similar efficacies. (more…)

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We Are All So Powerful And Capable Of So Much Happiness

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There is this misconception in the world right now. It isn’t something many people speak about, or even realize. I think the only reason I realized it and some others do realize it, is because we have seen the other side. We have experienced what it’s like to be powerful and happy.

The myth or misconception is that human beings as an individual unit are weak, and capable of only misery. If we do get happy, it is a temporary thing, and will dim out soon enough. I wish to tell you that this is absolutely false, and there is no reason for you to believe this falsehood anymore.

Break off the shackles of lie, and come forth into the light with me. Or something to that effect.  (more…)

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Time Is Nonrefundable, Spend It On What You Really Care About

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I am a published writer of the lowest calibre. I have some science fiction novels published on Amazon, and I write because I absolutely love to use my imagination to create new worlds, and new stories. In all honesty, I hate, absolutely hate sharing my writing experience with people, because there’s only one thing that comes out of it. Actually, two things. People either ask me if I have made money from my books yet, which really taint the whole experience of sharing my joy with people.

And/or, they ask me if I could read one of their short stories or novels or the first chapter of their book. It’s actually hilarious to me, because the reason they give for it, is that you seem like someone who is a doer, and I need someone who’s going to actually do what I ask them to do. Most other people in their life are not like that. They cannot be asked to do something like this, because they are too lazy or unfocused or unmotivated to comply.

Okay, so I think to myself, because I am motivated, and I am getting shit done, you are going to dump more shit on my head? Wow, what an ironic twist of situation. (more…)

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Saying No Is One Of The Most Important Things You Can Learn

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When I was younger, I thought a mark of a successful person, a successful woman, was one who would say ‘Yes’ to everyone and everything. IF I could be one of those superwomen, who does everything, and who is able to balance everything, then I would be successful.

I needed to be the perfect daughter, perfect sister, perfect employee, perfect friend/coworker, perfect lover, perfect dresser, and more. If I wasn’t saying yes to everything, and moreover, doing everything perfectly, then I wasn’t the perfect successful person that I aspired to be.

As you can imagine that was a tall order to fill, not only for a person like me, who’s in essence lazy, but also, for anyone on this planet. No wonder there are so many women who are going on Riddelin, and other over-the-counter stimulants, to balance out everything that they need to do in their busy overfilled lives.

Not only do they need to have children, and be perfect mothers to them, going to all of the meetings, and baking cookies at every occasion, but they need to be the perfectly coiffed wife, ready to go to any and all parties, as arm candy at a second’s notice. Also, they need to be the perfect employees, making oodles of money for the company. And they need to do it all in heels! (more…)

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