If You Are Not Going To Be Serious About Your Work, No One Else Will

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When I first quit my job to start my own business, I didn’t take it seriously, or as seriously as I take it now. I would let people distract me from my work, I would roam around during my most creative hours looking for dates or doing groceries, and I got embarrassed when people would tell me I didn’t have a real job.

I bought it upon myself. I didn’t take the work that I was doing seriously. The problem was that I thought that I wasn’t working on a full-time job anymore, and therefore, I started behaving as if I were on a perpetual holiday. Thankfully, that didn’t last long, because I realized I had to start making money soon or move back in with my parents. And I was not moving back in with my parents.

Now, my mentality towards my business is completely different. No matter what else is going on in the world, my business and my creative work comes first.  (more…)

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The Day You Stop Racing, Is The Day You Win The Race

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Bob Marley said those wise words that make up the title of this post. I am not as wise as him, but the words he said make so much sense to me that I wanted to share my own experience with them. Everything comes to us in exactly the right time.

These words came to me in a moment where I was racing so hard that I was killing myself. I was racing against time, beyond time, and hoping to beat time. I was working 18 hours a day, and not able to rest fully at night. I was fulfilled, don’t get me wrong. I was happy. I thought this was what I was supposed to be doing. And probably in those moments of time, I was. I absolutely was meant to be doing that.

But as moments passed by, the message became clear. I had to stop racing against time. The race had to end, or I would die racing.

To put it into real life terms, the universe was sending me the signal, that the more I was doing, the further away from myself I was running off to. Even though, I was spending my time working on projects that meant the world to me, it still didn’t mean anything. It still meant that I was running around, being inauthentic to my true self. My true self just wanted to sit around, create, be lazy, and grow immeasurably through that laziness. (more…)

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We Are Always Right Where We Are Supposed To Be

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Recently, I had to quit a job, and move back home as my parents needed my youth and strength around them to give them energy and vitality. It was an easy decision to make. I didn’t dilly-dally about it. I had the revelation during the lunar eclipse in July 2018. Lots of old ideas faded, or were ripped out of me. I had to decide what was truly important to me. My parents needed me. I had to go back home. There was nothing else for me to think about.

I came back home, and it felt right. Everyone asked me if I was feeling resentful that I had to leave a great job that I had been dreaming about, a house and life by the ocean, and a stress-free existence, to move to a different kind of existence. And this is what I told everyone.

I have made thousands of plans in my life. And I mean, thousands. I am a planner by heart. I plan everything, from grocery shopping, to window shopping, to my daily schedule, to taking a shower. Everything has a list associated with it, even if it might not be colour-coded.

I make plans. But, and this is a learning I have had over the past few years, the universe has an entirely different plan for me every single time. If I was the foolish kind (and I was that in the past), I would fight the universe’s plan for me, because goddamnit, I have a plan of my own, and I am going to follow my plan over the universe’s plan come hell or high water. (more…)

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You Get What You Are Looking For

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Have you noticed there are certain kind of people in your life who always end up in a fistfight with someone? They might be at a bar or on a cruise. It doesn’t really matter. For them, life is a fistfight, and therefore, it ends up being so. For others, life ends up being a TV drama, and so one after another, they deal with drama after drama. If its not one thing, it’s another.

As humans, we have a tendency to bring what we want into our life, just by thinking about it. You might be afraid of a certain something happening, and lo and behold, that certain something happens. Did it happen because it was meant to happen or because you made it happen by worrying about it?

For example, I am always worried that I am going to end up in a fight with my father, because our opinions are so similar to each other, and we are both so hotheaded. Because I am always so worried about ending up in a fight with him, I feel like I am always on high alert when I am around him. Thus, I end up sometimes causing a fight, because I take everything he says, in a negative way. I end up angering him because he wants to be jovial with me. I won’t allow him to do so, because I am expecting us to fight.

It’s really the most foolish way to live life. (more…)

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Every Person’s Idea Of Success Should Be Different

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I was sitting on Facebook, as per usual, doing some work, or pretending to do some work, while I stalked some of my friends and friends’ friends. And I saw that a friend of mine was visiting Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. She is a major Muay Thai and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu fiend, and thus, her post was about how she spends all of her time in KL either working, or taking lessons for both of these sports.

Instantly, my mind which can be an evil place, ran to putting me down. When I was in KL the last time around, all I did was work a little bit, walk around, sit in coffee shops, write, and shop.

Of course, in my head, her trip was a success, and mine was not. I berated myself for being lazy, and more.

Why did I do that to myself? I had so much fun on my trip, doing the things that I loved to do. Why does her trip seem like a success to me, and mine does not? Why am I using someone else’s benchmark for a successful trip for my own? (more…)

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The Pause Is As Important As The Note

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Why is it so hard to say, “I’m tired, and I need some rest?” It seems to be one of the hardest things in the world to say out loud. Why? The past few months have been especially strenuous for me, as I have been juggling (terribly) two full-time jobs, my business and creative work, with a full-time job. Now, I don’t know about you guys, but I need my sleep. I need at least 7-9 hours of sleep. But I was finding myself exhausted during the days even after sleeping for ten hours at night.

It wasn’t an exhaustion that could be slept away. I realized a few days ago, that I have been pushing myself so hard over the past few months that I think I am at that stage where I have to give something up. Thankfully, something came up that forced me to quit my full-time job.

As always, the universe is much, much smarter than me. It knew that I wouldn’t quit my creative or business work, unless I was dead. And it knew that being a perfectionist, and having this insane urge to do my best with everything, I wouldn’t quit my full-time job either. It knew that I would die before quitting. And all in all, I believe it would have killed me, if the intervention from the universe hadn’t come in time. Or at least injured me. (more…)

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Be Brave Enough To Walk Away Or Tweak Something That Doesn’t Work For You Fully

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There is a lot online and even on my website about sticking to something, being persistent, being consistent, and more. I am not detracting from that at all. I cannot detract from it, because I am a shining example of being consistent, and persistent gets you to lead your ideal life. That’s what life is all about.

Keeping on going on the path that makes sense for you, and sticking with it, UNTIL, it doesn’t make sense anymore. And then tweaking your path, and moving to something that makes more sense for you.

It doesn’t mean that you bang your head again and again against something that is so obviously not working for you.  (more…)

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Why Are People So Afraid Of Intense People Like Me?

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“Dial it down.” “Calm down.” “Don’t be so much.” “Stop being so high.” “You are too intense.” “Why are you always too much?”

I have heard these statements all of my life. It wasn’t mildly annoying to hear these words thrown at me on a daily or weekly basis. It was extremely degrading, and humiliating. I hated myself for being too much. I wanted to feel less, I wanted to be less, and I wanted to do less.

Cool as a cucumber. Cool as so many of those ice princesses roaming around, who felt nothing, or at least they looked like they felt nothing. I wanted to be like them. Desperately.

Over time, I realized it was a hopeless endeavour. I wasn’t ever going to be like them.

If someone broke my heart, I wasn’t going to be calmly posting about it on Instagram or prowling the clubs dressed up to the nines looking for my next victim. I was going to be raging against the machine, screaming, crying, wailing about the unfairness of it all. And more. (more…)

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Consider How Far You’ve Come Before Shaming Yourself For Not Being More

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I have a tendency as most people do to shame myself for not doing enough, not being enough, not having enough, and more. Even though, I am successful in my mind, and I am living an awesome life, there’s always something more I could be doing. I’m becoming better and better in this regard as time goes on, but it’s still one of those things I struggle with.

The universe, I love her so much, she is always looking out for me, which means, that I got a message from her recently that really made me feel so grateful for the journey I have undertaken. But more than that, it made me realize really how far I have come, and how proud I should be about that fact.

It’s not about bragging or boasting. It’s about genuinely being kind to myself, and loving myself for the fact that I have done so much and I have come so far. (more…)

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